Very short & very sad blog

September 19th, 2018

 

There are times in all our lives when we experience loss and have to deal with grief. It is so hard when we lose a family member or close friend, and we can never be prepared for it.

People who read my blogs will understand when I say, losing a dog, your friend, your companion, is just as hard.

And you can never be prepared, even when you know it’s coming … and he/she is old, ill, and fragile …

Over the years I’ve lost many dogs, and every time I cried, I cried a lot. I didn’t want to talk to anyone, and I always preferred to deal with the loss from the inside out. I needed a space where I could grieve, but this space was always inside me. I would occupy myself with work, keep myself busy, and from time to time close the door and cry. Then over time the gaps between cries become longer, flashes of happy memories appeared more often, and sometimes I laughed over my tears.

Everybody grieves differently, and it is important to give yourself time and do it at your own pace. I just don’t ever want the grief to take over my life … I always want to feel the love and gratitude for everything we have been through together, good or bad, funny or sad, all the naughtiness, all the cuddles, and endless kisses.

Thank you, Kimi for being a part of my life xx

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18 responses to “Very short & very sad blog”

  1. Janet Millar-Craig says:

    Dear Jitka
    I am so sorry to hear about Kimi, and will be thinking about you in the days and weeks to come. You are so right when you talk about the love we have for our animals. You will never replace Kimi, but all the happy memories of the short life you shared will soon shine through your sadness. Take good care.

  2. Diane Grigg says:

    I am so very very sorry I feel your pain
    The hurt is beyond words but one day you
    Will feel that hurt lift and a smile Will break through
    For me when the pain eased we did a little photo book
    Each day I would hug cry and miss my Boo
    Then one day I smiled and remembered the good times
    Never again was replaced by maybe and May joined the family and helped heal the massive Boo shaped hole
    May is different We laugh and we are blesaws to have this crazy airedale in our lives.
    Much love

  3. Annie Jones says:

    Oh Jitka I am so very sorry for your loss. It is so very hard and you will miss her so much but I’m sure she was blessed having you in her life too.
    Sending hugs because nothing can help only time and good memories.
    Fondest
    Annie

  4. Dawn Needham says:

    I agree with every word. It is very sad when your dog dies, but it is very comforting to remember the good times and their companionship and humour. Dogs are wonderful animals and they all have their own personalities and are so loyal and loving that’s why it’s such a loss when they are no longer with us.
    Rest in peace Kimi, never forgotten x ♡

  5. Beverley Gough says:

    RIP Kimi 88

  6. Paulette Pratt says:

    So sorry to hear you have lost Kimi.
    I know how you are feeling as I have lost two
    of my Cocker Spaniel’s and am dreading my
    third one leaving for I do not know what I
    will do without him.
    What a beautiful picture you have of Kimi
    so sad

  7. Chris Symcox says:

    So sorry to hear this sad news .. sending much love and hugs <3 xx

  8. Susanna Dimartino says:

    So sorry to hear about Kimi. It’s so sad they only have short lives. Treasure and find comfort in your memories. Sue xx

  9. Sue Turner says:

    So sorry Jitka, I feel your pain. It does get easier over time and the happy memories take over the sadness. What an amazing age! Big hugs xx

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